Sorry for scaring you about guys.

Sorry, girl, for scaring you about guys. 
I am not here for telling you a sad story but sometimes it is better to talk:
I haven't talked too much about my story... and I guess it helps me to help and support others    

Just be cautious...
Listen more than talk...                        
Get information about him    
                                                  
Do what make you feel better and you do what you think it is the correct one...  
Because you know him better. I don't know him at all and I can not say anything objective about him  but sometimes you can not judge a situation without having all the information, I could be lawyer for both.                    
But the fact that you two don't know each other well and he dare to argue with other person and with you for such a little thing. It doesn't give me so much confidence.                     
What if the other guy just want to say hello and it is a nice guy or just curious about what you are from.
                    
 Exactly! I am not comfortable with him at all. I don't know if I want to spend some time with him. The thought of his temper makes me sick in the pit of my stomach. I will try to avoid him and  ignore his messages.                                                               
The other guy was obviously interested in me.                                                             
This whole thing devastates me so much. I was already getting over it and now it is coming back.                                          
Sorry for bringing the things back.

Now you know. Just that it happened unexpectedly.
This guy is a very nice guy though. He is sweet and kind, but he started blaming me and I was really hurt.                         
He started telling me stupid things that made me doubt his thinking capability.                        
He seems to be a very intelligent guy, but that day he got me rooted to the ground than a tree.  
 As long as it does help. Now I know I should be extra careful.  
      
That`s nasty!!                       
you don't have to feel guilty because of that. 
You are pretty and you are right to be admired by other people.    
There are some intellegent guys that are not empathetic at all, that`s the thing, they don't have emotinal intelligence. Anyway it seems this guy has a problem of self control and self esteem too.                       
So it is better you stay away.                      
And yes, you should not feel guilty. It was good it happened to you,  so now, you know how he is exactly and you are not wasting your time with him.   
               
 I know those kind of guys that are charming, polite and everything you can imagine, they know how to treat you, what to say,  what not to say but they are sick people. They are not able to have a sane relationship                   
 Picking a girl from other country is much easier for them because of the language barrier, cultural shock and adding to the fact you do not know so many people here, you will take longer to realise how he is actually.                        
When I was 17, I was into that kind of relationship. The guy was psicological abuser                        At the beginning he was like charming and everything...
 He gained my family,  they thought he was a nice guy. He wrote me love letters, sweet messages and  he was romantic.  He brought me roses from time to time. He said to my mother nice things... like "estas muy guapa hoy" . He wanted her to gain his trust and loyalty.  
After a while he started to make me feel bad for tiny things and in fact he knew my weak points, in other to made me feel guilty when he wanted me to get something, like to pay more attention to him, spending more time with him,or just simply make me stay away from other people like my friends.                                        
After 3 years of relationship, I broke up with him, but  he didn't leave to stalker me...
I had to change my telephone and hopefully I was living in Madrid and he was in leon                        It was hard for me to overcome to have another relationship and even today I find it hard to trust on any guy, I try to choose carefully                   
 After a while I was feeling bad and guilty with myself for having allowed him to spoil my life but I learnt it was good that happened, so now I can distinguish them easily. (I can find some from time to time)                      
This crazy guy was living in Angola, now he has a wife from there and two kids. Can you believe he sent me a message through Facebook 3 months ago, after more than 15 years withoug any contact?                                        
But I cannot stand with this kind of guys. and I know in some occasions because of that I could be exaggerated if I notice any kind of similar behaviour.                   
               
Though this guy seemed so different. He was very kind and sweet. Even his messages. 


Yes, they are like that at the beginning                   
Thats why some girls can't leave them,  They have a bad behaviour after that every single time they say sorry and "I m not doing it again"
In my case he threatened several times.      

My story is quite similar to that other girl
Her boyfriend had a very short temper and he would hit the wall with his head when he was angry.     She says it was difficult for her to leave him because he promised her that he will kill himself if she breaks up with her. She says she was always hiding from him.                                            
He became dangerous and started looking for her.  She changed her phone number, and the house.
                                  
So you are lucky, now you know. Im fine now and above all I feel grateful.                       
                                          
Yes, I learned a lot. These guys are full of tricks, but their tricks don't take them anywhere. I am glad I know now.  Thank you so much Pili
                       
 Thank you for sharing with me
                 
It's my pleasure to do so.                                             
Your story can change someone's life. It will be nice if you can allow me to write a book using your story.

Sure. Why not??